We are born into a bloodline and we have an ancestry – a very long succession of generations ending up in what we genetically are today, what constitutes our unique set of features, characteristics, our heredity. We call this blood-line family. We are led to believe, from a very young age, that we not only belong to this ancestry but that we should be proud of it, and this pride takes the form of an attachment to a particular race, country, culture, religion, language, set of customs, cuisine, dress code and so on and so forth, as limitless as our devotion to our pedigree.
As the main social unit in our world today, one would assume that the family would be experienced as a place where one feels safe, understood, heard and listened to, supported, nurtured and loved. Unfortunately, it is far from the truth and many of us can confirm that this is not the case and that the long list of child abuse, domestic violence, family feuds, jealousy between siblings and emotional upheaval is far too common.
I remember my mother falling out with one of her brothers when I was a child, as a result of which I never really knew my cousins, and fifty years later my mother and her brother are still not on speaking terms. Nobody actually remembers why they fell out! It seems funny but so many of us have stories like this one, proving how unsuitable to our evolution the family unit actually is. The family that we know today is more oppression than evolution.
My family was never enough for me. From a very young age my standards were high; I knew in my body what real love was, how it felt, and what I could see around me was not this true level of love, this pure all-encompassing grace and harmony that melts our heart and pulls us up towards a grander state of being. In fact, we long for unity. We crave for a simple, transparent, open and accepting way of being with each other that brings support as much as love, everyone bringing the angle and sensitivity that is unique to them. This is a definition of family that I like where we are family with everyone and equal to everyone as long as we live our sacredness.
We gradually realise that our blood-line family is not it and that individuality does not work and has never worked. We come to understand that we are all interconnected, which means that how we behave in our corner of the planet affects someone else somewhere else and actually affects our planet Earth too.
The interconnectedness of life becomes obvious and unavoidable because we are all sons of God in total equality which makes us brothers, a family of brothers, a humanity united by love.